My Aunt Ronnie once said to me, “If you’re so smart, how come you ain’t rich?”
It took me by surprise. I may have inherited my father’s air of intellectual loftiness but I never thought of myself as a snob.
The years have disabused me of the notion I’m smart.
I still don’t know what existentialism is.
I know, “Israel is in the midst of an existential crisis,” but, though I’ve read and digested Sartre and Dostoyevsky and Nietzsche, which might have helped, I still have no idea what existentialism as a philosophy is. I took Existentialism at Columbia and was asked to read Husserl, Heidegger, and Kierkegaard. Hieroglyphics. Even if I weren’t stoned and had plowed through that impossibility of words, I would have got the F that stained my GPA for life.
Writer Bob Gitlin in his office, where he pretends he’s smart.
I never use “existentialism” in writing, except here, to explain I don’t know what it means. I think it means there’s no God, we make our own meanings slogging through the absurdity of life. But I’m not sure.
It doesn’t matter. I spend too much time up in my head anyway.
I blogged about Zadie Smith. I wonder if anybody read it. Oh, I know people are busy with family this time of year. But still. Too esoteric, too eggheady? People seem to read the ones where I talk about my working class life. Maybe I need to go back to work at Safeway to have material.
But maybe not. I drove the deli manager crazy with my “Should I do it this way, or that?” hair-splittings when he gave me jobs to do. He would respond, through gritted teeth, “Do it one way or the other way. Just do it.” Good thing I ran my ass off the way I did, got good at making sandwiches, and curtailed that habit or he might have fired me straightaway for driving him bonkers.
I had learned somewhat of a lesson about overthinking, which does not make you smarter but rather dulls the learning mechanism.
Several years ago, my white-collar life having collapsed, I worked a brief, unhappy stint at Dillard’s. The lady who ran the dock crew got rid of me for driving her nuts with all my questions. She devised a ruse, saying I’d missed part of the procedure for cleaning rest rooms, though that was the one thing there I did right. But she needed a liability-proof document whereby she could let me know she didn’t want me around. She prayed I’d quit so she didn’t have to fire me and confront the possibility of her bosses mad at her because of having to pay me unemployment. I did the right thing and put in my two weeks.
Someone that worked for her, who’d been forced into helping her grease the skids for me, told me my last day, “I’m sorry. I thought you would have worked out.” But I don’t blame that crew boss. She’d tried everything, including giving me the job of sending packages out on Federal Express, something easy. I drove her nuts making her repeat directions.
I guess I wasn’t into it. I had thought myself a luftmensch, someone who’d make a living with his intellect, like my dad. When I soured on my writing career I became a teacher. When I soured on my teaching career I became a grunt. A grunt suffering a plague of cogitation. I have a history of this. I still drive my wife nuts overthinking things.
There’s much to wonder or even worry about, I suppose. Like what am I going to do in “retirement”? What are my hobbies and interests? I’m not too handy. Not gonna be buying old cars and putting in engines.
But I do what I can.
Contented with each other: wife and dog. A lesson in life.
A drawing class at the community college might revive an interest in art that saw me through five years of high school classes.
I never waffled on this decision. When I ran into a snag with the registration, unable to get up onto their site, having to run home for my Social Security card, Barb thought I’d say fuck it and give up. Nope. Class starts January.
An adventure. That’s what my retirement needs.
And, yes, I’m still blogging.
Nobody read about Zadie Smith, including another eye-rolling invocation of how I met Ken Kesey. Live with it. And let that poor man rest in peace, Bob. His fame won’t rub off on you. Seventy is a good age to learn this.
But that’s no reason to stop writing. You have to have the guts to put yourself out there and fail. You have to risk sucking.
My sister Lisa once licked one of my many wounds over the phone. I guess I was getting all angsty. Memorably, she told me, “Life is for learning.” I was agonizing about some stupid, shameful thing I’d done that people knew about. I dragged it around long after everybody else might have forgotten.
It all seems to be drifting away, the ego-driven mania for worrying. Maybe some of the self-involvement resulted from not having kids. I suppose caring for a wife and a dog redeem me somewhat.
OK, so the latest post was a little jumbled. So sue me. I contemplated cutting off my nose to spite my face, and not blogging anymore. I’ll show them. But that in itself were vanity, n’est-ce pas? I’ll just try again and try to do better, work more honestly, be simpler.
Merry Christmas, and a Happy New Year.
Scout and our neighbor’s dog Zeva sure know how to have fun.