I was telling an old friend about my life, ruefully bemused. Here I was, a man with a college education, “reduced” to finishing out his work days in retail stores, a menial clerk. This friend, an old friend whom I commonly regard as the big brother I never had, objected to my characterization. I can always count on Roger to see me as part of some noble hero journey. “Yours is a success story!” he said. He sounded so adamant, I dared not gainsay him. I have staggered through much defeat but, as my mother said, I always dusted myself off and carried on. Nothing would crush my spirit. Deli clerk at age 70? So what?
Me at Edgewater Park in Cleveland several years ago. Hey, I’ve got to get back to Ohio to see my peeps, including my sister in Toledo.
But I am no longer at Safeway. I have retired. I was at first afraid to tell Roger, afraid he’d say something like, “Retire? And do what?” He’s three years my senior and still plying his trade. But there’s little parallel between his continued career as a divorce attorney and how I’ve supported myself for several years.
Once you make a decision, you have to follow through. Life is a science experiment. You’ve got to test your hypothesis. For me, it was time.
Deli, famous storewide for being the gig nobody wanted, had finally got to me. I was surrounded by kids “calling out,” blithely informing the store they could not make it. I got shifts dumped on me because of their dereliction. I had no regular schedule, it was all over the place. My wife complained about inability to plan leisure activities and trips. I did it for a long time, happy to be useful. The boss there, a guy about half my age, must have discerned my resentment at his inability or unwillingness to protect me from having to work Thanksgiving. Nothing could remove the eight-hour shift posted. The extra pay was no consolation. I had thought I deserved special treatment, being a senior staff member. No such luck.
I was weighing tortilla chips on the scale, slapping on price tags, when behind me I heard his voice. “Don’t you have some sort of pension or retirement income?”
That did it. I saw the writing on the wall.
“Well, I’m 70 now,” I said over my shoulder. “I’ve waited till now to get my social. In fact, in five days I get my first check.”
“What’ll that mean?” he persisted.
“I guess I’ll quit,” I heard myself say.
And I did.
People all over the store, including Deli, expressed regret at losing me. When I formally announced to this guy, the deli manager, that, yes, I was indeed quitting, he hugged me and thanked me for all my help. And it was genuine. So I have no resentments over this. It was gratifying to be told I’d be missed. I sure didn’t feel that when I left that trade magazine place, or the last school district that employed me as English teacher.
I FELT WISTFUL as I stuck the landing my last day there. As I artfully fashioned then wrapped a Turkey Bacon Avocado sandwich, relishing the oohs and aahs of my customer, I knew I’d miss this. As I shrank-wrapped my tenth submarine sandwich, of the type we put out on the salad island in front of the deli counter, a smoking deal at $7.99, I realized how I’d improved my game at fashioning both kinds of subs, the All-American and the Italian, and I’d miss this too. This feeling of accomplishment. Yes, accomplishment.
A friend from Customer Service begged me not to leave. “Work just two days.” She mentioned one of the older, mature people who worked Deli, said I should have his kind of schedule. But that was not in the cards. I was a utility infielder, plugging gaps in the lineup. There were holes in my worth in Deli. For one, you have to be a practiced cook to be a main dude. I had no prior food-service experience to begin with. I knew how to drop fried chicken and get baked chicken into the oven, how to rack and cook rotisseries, but the plethora of side things – Nathan’s hot dogs, pot pies, not to mention the eight different kinds of wings for the wing bar – had me lost. I hadn’t the energy to do more than I knew how to do, despite my famous old-guy vigor. Nobody knew I was that old. They saw me run around, tipping garbage cans into the dumpster, performing all manner of physical tasks, displaying immense energy. That’s one reason my retirement announcement came as a surprise.
Because of my overall usefulness and maturity, it had been suggested I go for assistant deli manager, and I’d rejected the prospect. First, that was fulltime. This working-in-stores thing, starting several years ago at Walmart, had been about part time, 32 being the max hours I wanted. After shoulder surgery, my requested threshold was less than that now.
I wanted to help out. I didn’t want to be The Man.
That Thanksgiving assignment I made my last day. They even let me go early. I was glad to go. Halfway through building subs, as I left I made sure the kids knew someone had to finish the task. They knew. They said they’d miss me. I said I’d miss being here, but they’d still see me as a customer, I lived nearby.
A sweetheart of a lady who runs Bakery, which shares backroom space and a three-spigot sink with Deli, even made me a big sheet cake with strawberry and whipped cream frosting, which I cut up upstairs in the break room for the people, telling everybody I had three Thanksgiving pies waiting for me at home already. My Safeway comrades devoured that cake. I mean to go back to Safeway to thank Bree, the bakery chief, who wasn’t there for me to hug the day I left. I’m getting misty as I write this.
So, what have I been doing? Going to the gym, reading Zadie Smith, winterizing my RV, and, after a cleansing fight, coming to terms with a wife who’ll have to get used to me hanging around the house more. So far, I don’t regret this. But I have the kind of mind that figures if I’m happy I must be missing something.
I thought she’d give me heat. I never exactly turned into Stephen King as a writer; I got the feeling Barb was within her rights to see me as a man whose consummate skill was as a laborer. She’s always worked me hard, even been tough on me, but that’s okay, it’s made me a better, humbler man.
I said the other day, testing the waters, “Well, we’ll see how this goes. If I can’t handle being retired, I guess I can beg for my old job back.”
Barb did not hesitate to reply, “I don’t see that happening.”